Recognize the invisible wounds

Dating a marine tips for better

This may only apply to those who live with their military member, but it should be mentioned at least. Trust me, eventually, they will come up. Nothing is worse than coming home from work to a house stacked with boxes everywhere. They are bound to follow orders or receive consequences for noncompliance. You are the one that is dating him, not your friends.

Girls tend to ask for real sympathy and sometimes a suggestion for how to amend their problems, seeking feedback more than a punching bag to take all their stress out on. As a general rule, I don't count on anything until his boots hit the ground. With a real person they are so in love with. If your date has a disability, assume that she understands her own needs better than you do.

Military men are used to being thrown into countries and situations with which they are unfamiliar, so when traveling, always expect to have a great navigator around. If you both trust each other and want to be together, you'll find a way to make it work.

However for those who

Many veterans stay friends with the people they served with for the rest of their lives. Depending on where they are stationed, your relationship will feel the effects of where they and you are located. Be aware that not all veterans will want to open up about their experiences right away. Don't pressure her, but do give her an opportunity to share her feelings with you and enlist you as an ally in dealing with the challenges of life as a veteran. If you can't bear the thought of it getting broken, move it yourself.

So make friends with as many people who have dated, married, or been family to someone in the military. It seems like every time I do tune in something is happening where he's supposed to be, and it's too hard to worry like that. This will be trying for you, but imagine how he feels.

You never know what the

Jelena Woehr Dating a veteran can be either very difficult or quite simple, depending upon the couple's compatibility and how affected the veteran has been by his or her military experience. Nothing happens the way it's supposed to, or when it's supposed to, so learn to go with the flow. You need to understand this and realize how difficult it is. Once your orders are official, contact the future post's Housing office and get on a list as soon as possible, if you hope to live on post.

You never know what the housing is like from post to post. However, for those who do, there is nothing wrong with that. Listening to all the talk just made for an emotional roller coaster, so eventually we learned to just ignore the rumors. Not every soldier comes home with post-traumatic stress.

Which got me thinking about how many other pearls of wisdom are floating out there in our military wife community, waiting to be discovered. When she is out on a deployment, your Marine may not be able to communicate with you very often.

Many military creeds reference loyalty or unity. Nothing is ever official until it's in writing, and even then it's subject to change. Veterans with post-traumatic stress disorder face additional challenges in relationships.

Basically, dating a Generation Y military man is no different than dating anyone else. Perpetual overthinker, good-doer, book nerd, wine connoisseur and amateur world traveler. It's not fair to place a stereo-type on anyone. And it will either scare you, anger you, or simply remind you of the benefits of your relationship. The needs of the Army always come first.